Relationship Difficulties: The Do’s and Dont’s
Relationship problems are inevitable. No matter how excellent your communication skills are, how socially accepted you may be, you are bound to come across a few communication breakdowns and social backlashes. Whether it’s your relationships with your partner, work colleagues, children or parents, relationship difficulties will occur.
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Avoiding them is preferable, but how we handle them is the most important things to do. Relationship problems range from small misunderstandings to serious and problematic issues. It is not only affecting your lifestyle and social life but also can affect your mental health too. Being mentally prepared and knowing how to behave and react better with others is essential for building better and healthier relationships.
In the UAE, there is a strong social culture on respect to one another and punctuality. Not only in romantic relationships but also professional ones with colleagues at work. Ensuring strong and maintained relationships are an essential aspect for people to flourish individually and for society as a whole.
To help you stay away from relationship difficulties, here are a few do’s and don’ts you can practice.
The Do’s for Your Relationship
1. Think before you act
No matter how you’re feeling, what your mood is, or what someone has done to you, always take the time to think, observe and assess the situation before acting out. When our state of mind is effected through anger or emotions, our ability to perceive situations becomes impaired along with our judgment. It will lead us to make regrettable mistakes because we cannot control our emotions.
2. Practice calming techniques
If you have never meditated or practiced breathing techniques, you should. These will help to alleviate stress from the mind and body and letting go of tensions and ill feelings you may have towards another person. Calming techniques are made to soothe your emotions quicker than you naturally can, allowing you to make relationship calls and judgments with a clearer mind.
3. Put yourself in other people’s shoes
It’s easy to feel mad towards another person because your ideas or beliefs do not align. But before you do or say something that may hurt the other person and damage the relationship, it’s always a good idea to put yourselves in their shoes and try to see it from there perspective. Relationship problems will never end if you cannot learn to compromise.
If you are arguing or debating something with someone who just like you, are not willing to compromise, your relationship will deteriorate quickly and may even reach the point where it cannot be fixed. Sometimes you just have to give way no matter how strongly you feel.
No matter what the debate is, the outcome you’re trying to achieve or the point you’re trying to get across, you need to ask yourself, ‘is it more important than your relationship?’. If the answer is no, then compromise.
5. Check up on your own mental health
Checking up on your mental health with a medical practitioner or professional psychologist might be the answer to your problems. Not only should you have a mental health checkup, but also your partner or person you have a conflict with. If you are mentally unstable or suffering from health complications, this may affect your mental abilities, therefore heightening your emotions and connections with other people.
6. Admit when you’re wrong
It’s okay to be wrong, and it’s okay to apologize. A lot of reasons why relationships turn sour is because of ego. The problem with ego is that it won’t let you compromise with the other person, and stops you from reaching a resolution when deep down, you know, is the only way. Putting your ego aside is important with anything you do, especially when it involves your relationship with others.
The Dont’s for Your Relationship
1. Don’t Seek revenge
Revenge never ends well for anyone. Trying to get revenge on someone is having the feeling of justification for acting on your emotions. Working on your emotions without clear thinking or proper consideration of the situation can always end up messy. So before you go about seeking revenge on someone, try to calm yourself down, think clearly and reassess what the best course of action is.
2. Avoid lying
Lying or keeping secrets can be more harmful than you think. One of the most important things in fixing up a broken relationship is to be as transparent as possible. If you are lying or hiding important facts, though it might solve the problem quickly, it will create tension over time.
No matter how much the truth hurts or the risk in telling the truth, it’s much better to have it out in the open as opposed to covering it up. Fixing a relationship will only work when you’re ready to tell the truth.
3. Do not threaten
Making threats is one of the biggest no when trying to fix a relationship. Whether your threats are genuine or just to stir emotion in someone, threats will ultimately tarnish the perspective others have on you as well as showing a dominant and compulsive side of you that people will not respect.
So before you let your emotions get the better of you and you start saying things you will regret, take a step back, calm down and get a hold of yourself.
4. Don’t blame
Whether the other person made a situation or problem, try not to blame them directly if you know that they will not take it likely. Depending on who it is, you need to approach all people differently. Some may be stubborn, some may be insecure, and some may be extremely egotistical.
Your approach to all people has to be adapted, so you don’t exacerbate the situation. Instead of blaming, highlight what went wrong, and a direct solution to the problem doesn’t happen again.
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